How to Make Friends in NYC: Advice from a Transplant
How do I make friends when I move to NYC?
One of my most frequently asked questions “How to make friends in NYC?” Moving to New York City can be both exhilarating and daunting, especially when you are without a solid social circle. I know the feeling all too well—I moved to the city three years ago, and initially, I had no friends to lean on. However, I've learned valuable lessons about making friends in the Big Apple over time. Whether you're new to NYC or simply looking to expand your social circle, here are some tried-and-tested tips to help you navigate the bustling metropolis and forge meaningful connections.
Is it easy to make friends in NYC?
Many assume that making friends in a city as vibrant as New York would be a breeze, given the sheer number of people here. However, the reality is a bit more complicated. While there are countless opportunities to meet new people, forming genuine connections can be challenging. The key is to be proactive and open-minded and to put yourself out there.
Hard time meeting people and making friends in NYC?
Moving to NYC can be overwhelming, but it's also an opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and meet new people.
Bumble BFF: One approach that has worked wonders for me is using Bumble BFF. Despite some mixed reviews, I've had success meeting genuine friends through the app. Making meaningful connections can be challenging in a bustling city like NYC, where everyone seems to have a hectic schedule and endless options. I'm not a fan of small talk or endless texting with strangers. Instead, I've adopted a proven successful strategy: proposing specific activities in my profile prompts. Whether inviting someone to join me for a winery trip upstate or trying out a new class together, having a shared interest from the start makes the connection more authentic. This approach cuts through the superficial conversations and provides a ready-made plan for us to meet. Typically, after conversing with a few people, I take a brief break from the app to focus on those potential connections, which usually takes 1-2 weeks.
Meetup/Eventbrite Groups: Attending networking and social gatherings can be daunting for introverts, but I've discovered some incredible clubs and organizations where I've felt right at home. Here are a few gems I've found:
Asian Support Network (ASN): The Asian Support Network (ASN), founded and managed by a close friend, stands out as one of the most authentic and wholesome groups I've encountered. Unlike traditional networking setups, ASN fosters genuine connections among its members. With occasional meetup events, this community provides an opportunity to experience its welcoming atmosphere firsthand. For those seeking deeper engagement, joining Discord opens the door to more private activities. Moreover, ASN offers a variety of interest-based group activities, ranging from singing sessions to hiking adventures in nature.
Strawberry Matcha Group: Consider this a free, improved version of Bumble BFF. You fill out a form, get matched with like-minded individuals, and receive curated hangout suggestions.
Subtle Asian Recommendation (SAR Study Group): I discovered a co-working/study coffee group through the Subtle Asian NYC Life Group, and it's been a perfect fit for me. Since I work from home, I often seek out coffee shops to change scenery and boost my productivity. This group operates through Facebook Messenger, where members message the group when they plan to work at a particular coffee shop, and anyone can join in. It's a laid-back atmosphere, allowing spontaneous meetups and collaborative work sessions. What I love most is the diversity of industries represented within the group, which creates a dynamic and organic networking environment. There's no pressure to engage in conversation; it's all about connecting with like-minded individuals at your own pace.
3. Partiful Invite: An exclusive invite-only app. Partiful hosts various events, from housewarming to game nights. You'll receive more invitations once you attend one event, making expanding your social circle easy.
4. Join Interest-based groups: Engaging in exercise classes has been a fantastic way to meet new friends. Whether it's through Classpass, running clubs, or yoga and dance studios, these interest-based groups offer ample opportunities for connection.
Classpass: Personally, I've enjoyed trying different activities with Classpass, allowing me to explore various studios and meet like-minded individuals. For first-timers, you can get a month free for Classpass. This allows me to take 5-10 classes.
Running clubs such as Run for Chinatown, Midnight Runner, and the Not So Serious Running Group have provided structured meetups where we run together and enjoy meals and drinks afterward.
Yoga/Dance Membership at a specific studio: Volunteering and working out at Sui Yoga have also introduced me to a supportive community of fellow members, baristas, and yoga instructors. The positive energy within these communities has made forming friendships effortless and enjoyable. If dancing is your thing, there are also active dance groups where you can meet new people while doing what you love.
Social Strider NYC: Social Strider NYC, formerly the Not So Serious Running group, has undergone a makeover and now operates through the Heylo app. To participate in their events, you'll need to download the app. Despite their roots in running, this group offers a diverse range of activities and gatherings beyond just hitting the pavement. With members from late 20s to 50s, Social Strider NYC prides itself on being inclusive to individuals of all ages and backgrounds.
Facebook Groups: Groups like Girls Who Walk, Girls Go International, and Girls in NYC provide opportunities to connect with others, although the large membership can make it more challenging to form deep connections.
Other social groups, such as TAP- NY and Green Tile Social Club, operate on Instagram and host frequent events catering to different interests and demographics, offering diverse opportunities to meet new people.
How do I fight loneliness in NYC?
Loneliness is a common experience in a city as fast-paced as New York, but there are steps you can take to combat it. Seek out community organizations, clubs, and meetup groups that align with your interests. Joining these groups can provide a sense of belonging and connection, and you may even meet some lifelong friends along the way.
Most importantly, even though being alone in a big city like NYC can feel daunting sometimes, it's also an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. Embrace solo activities and use them as an opportunity to explore your interests and passions. Attend events, classes, and workshops independently, and don't be afraid to converse with strangers. You never know who you might meet or what new experiences you might have.
